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Complete and Lasting Recovery From Your Stressful Relationship With Food

Complete and lasting recovery from your stressful relationship with food is not only possible, you can expect it with CEDRIC`s unique and supremely successful method. Simple, fast, effective, anytime and anywhere in the world.

The Pervading Belief

There seems to be a pervading belief in our society that emotional eating, and eating disorders are problems that take a long time to overcome and that even with long term therapy and drugs etc., you can really only ever hope to manage your symptoms: Restricting and overeating food, binging and purging, bad body thoughts, anxiety and depression. In other words, our society, including many mental health professionals, carries the belief that once you have a stressful relationship with food, you’ll have it for life. Many clients who come to work with us at The CEDRIC Centre have even been told that directly by their doctor or psychiatrist, or by well meaning friends and family. How inspiring is that? How motivated would anyone be to seek help and to try to generate change when the story they’re told is that it won’t really ever work?

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Social Isolation and Withdrawal

socialisolationExcerpt from the book Food is Not the Problem: Deal With What Is! Social Isolation – Why Do I Do It? First, let’s explore what leads you to isolate yourself. In short, it’s all about how much you trust yourself to set boundaries and to only engage in relationships which are healthful and supportive of you. The degree to which you doubt your ability to assert your needs will be the degree to which you isolate. In other words, if you don’t trust yourself to say no to others, you will likely refrain from much social interaction, or you will find yourself overloaded with social commitments which are unrewarding and lack depth. You may not even be conscious that this is what motivates you to distance yourself from others. Your Drill Sgt. may have tried to explain your behaviour through his old core-belief perspective, telling you all sorts of stories about how weird and unlikable you are; how no one really cares whether you are around or not; how people are only going to judge you; and how unattractive or unintelligent you are if you go out. None of this is at all true. It’s just more of that coping strategy of negative core beliefs and bad body thoughts kicking in. And you know that this is just an indication of unmet needs for security and acceptance. As you begin to hone your skill of identifying the unmet needs that drive your coping behaviour, you will be presented with many opportunities, big and small, to strengthen your trust in yourself and create more security by validating your needs, setting clear boundaries, and proving how effectively you can care for yourself. It is likely that at the start of this new way of looking out for yourself you will notice yourself feeling anxious and resistant. There are two key pieces at play here: 1. Somehow, your Authentic Self and not your Nurturing Parent is front and centre trying to navigate this new terrain on her own. This is dangerous, because your Authentic Self is still very young and still needs a lot of reassurance and support to behave in a new way and not buy into those old core beliefs. She does not have the capacity to rationalize and empthasize in the way the Nurturing Parent does. She must not be made to handle scary and stressful situations such as boundary setting. You wouldn’t make a five-year-old child go on his own to confront someone about security or approval needs that aren’t being met, so you can’t expect your Authentic Self to have the courage and ability to do so either. 2. Your Drill Sgt. senses the insecurity, fear, and doubt of the Authentic Self and is doing his “motivation through criticism” to try and get you back into a “safe” and familiar place. You will likely hear the Drill Sgt. insisting that your needs are not valid or important. You may be aware of him calling you names, such as, weak, needy, when you are experimenting with acknowledging your feelings and needs to others. I encourage you to acknowledge the Drill Sgt.’s comments and then, as we have discussed, ask him what his intent is. Remember: seek to understand. The solution? Notice the distress and resistance about boundary setting, and call forth your Adult Nurturing Parent. The Nurturing Parent can then reassure the Authentic Self that her feelings and needs are valid; that she has a right to ask for what she needs and that they, the Nurturing Parent, will take over from here. “Try the hand-on-the-tummy thing here. It really does help to ground you and establish a stronger sense of connection between your Parent and Authentic Self). Whether you prefer one-on-one counselling (in-person, by phone, or email), our intensive and transformative workshops, the self-help approach with the book, or our Food is Not the Problem Online Membership Program, take action today to have a stress-free relationship with food. Sign up for our free newsletter today (see the left top side of your screen). Newsletter subscribers receive exclusive product discounts and are first in line to get on all the latest new at CEDRIC.

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The Self-Esteem Brownie Recipe

The Self-Esteem Brownie Recipe



Forget about edible brownies! Try The Self-Esteem Brownie Recipe and see how quickly the way you think about yourself and the way you relate to others in the world changes. It makes the world a much tastier place to be!

For starters you have to be willing to acknowledge that your stress about food or drinking or drugs or gambling or that relationship you just can seem to get over, or out of, is not about that. You must be at least open to the possibility that your stress about those things, while in part impacted by those obvious triggers, is actually about the way you are thinking about yourself and about your place in the world. If you are open to that possibility, try the self-esteem brownie recipe and prove it to yourself. Then sit back and watch as your world simply changes for the better and you feel more peaceful and confident than you ever imagined.

Once you are able to recognize that any energy around food that isn’t peaceful is simply an indicator that you’re feeling unsettled about something (or a number of things) and you’ve just kicked over your manageable stress threshold into maxed out, needing-food-to-cope land, then your automatic default will no longer be to get hooked and ride the train of food focus and self-flagellation, instead, your reaction will be empathy and compassion.  You will stop. You will breathe. You will say:

“Wait, I’m getting hooked into food focus here that isn’t feeling peaceful or good. That means I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed about something. What was I just thinking/what just happened that might have triggered me to feel at all anxious/unsettled/…pressured? And what am I telling myself that means? And was there any all-or-nothing thinking in that thought? If so, how else could it possibly go? And do I think that outcome is equally or more likely?”

There’s your recipe. It’ll make a perfect batch of self-esteem brownies every time!

Write out your answers to those questions whenever you notice you’re feeling anxious or thinking about using your coping strategy (binging, drinking, internet etc.). You’ll be amazed!!

Love Michelle

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Online Program Preview Q&A Call

Online Program Preview Q&A Call

On this recorded Online Program Preview Q&A Call, Michelle talks about the new CEDRIC Centre Online Program, answers questions (which were varied and very interesting!) about the program and much, much more. Listen to the Online Program Preview Q&A Call and find out more.

Our web based program is a perfect mixture of self-help, group support, and counsellor facilitated discussion and workshops. You get weekly lessons with written, audio, and video components so you can choose the style of learning that suits you best.

You get a group forum with a gentle structure and warm, friendly support; `your own personal cheering section` is how one member put it.

And you get webinars every 2 weeks plus special events, hosted by Michelle Morand, founder and originator of The CEDRIC Method where you can ask questions or just listen to the lesson and the conversation.

The program has a lot to offer and will definitely  help you stop feeling stuck with food and weight. If you`re ready to feel free of the grip food has on you, this is the place for you. And at $44.00 a month – it`s the most affordable way to get all the tools and support you need. 


On this recorded workshop Q&A call, Michelle talks about the new CEDRIC Centre Online Program, answers questions (which were varied and very interesting!) about the program and much, much more.

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Tweets on 2009-12-13

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A Little About Your ELOC

codependencyThe Diet Mentality of our society says that the way to be externally acceptable is to have breast augmentation, liposuction, no noticeable body fat, and a million dollars. It is not only unrealistic and unnatural, but it is also unhealthful. Ah, but the Drill Sgt. in you doesn’t really care, because the most important thing to him is meeting your needs for security and acceptance. And he believes that those needs must be met outside of yourself and can only be met when you have total acceptance and approval from everyone. He’ll worry about your quality of life and your health and wellness later. Right! Any of you who have been playing the Diet Mentality game for long will know that “later” never comes. From the Drill Sgt.’s perspective, there is always something more that you need to change/do/be in order to secure your place in the world. The only way the Drill Sgt. knows how to do this is to continue to pressure you to look a certain way so that you will finally get the approval and sense of security in the world that you so desperately seek. (more…)

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Tweets on 2009-12-06

  • Typical eating disorder onset occurs in those ages 14 to 25, yet children as young as 10 can exhibit symptoms. #
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Tweets on 2009-11-29

  • You are no more responsible for the needs, feelings and behaviors of others than you are for the weather. #
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Your Desired Belief

mindIt is very freeing to step out of your all-or-nothing thinking and old core belief, and to allow for the possibility that what you have believed about yourself or about old situations isn’t true. Stepping out of this old belief leaves a vacancy, a space that needs to be filled with a new thought or belief.  If spiritual enlightenment is your ultimate goal, at some point you will find yourself in a place where you don’t need to replace this old belief with anything: you just exist peacefully in the space that is left when it departs. For the rest of you who either don’t necessarily desire that or who are still on the path to enlightenment, there is the desired belief. The desired belief is the new story, the new thought which you will offer yourself whenever you notice the triggering of that old belief. Your desired belief will ultimately become your automatic thought: your “default setting” as I call it. For now, it will require some consciousness on your part to reinforce the new belief, but it isn’t hard to do. First let’s figure out what your desired belief is. The best and simplest way to do this is to take a look at your current belief. Let’s use I am not good enough as our example. (more…)

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Tweets on 2009-11-22

  • Start changing your relationship with food before the holidays. Workshop Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • No matter how old you are or how long you’ve been using food as a coping strategy, you can find your way out and it’s easier than you think. #
  • Food is not the problem. I can show you what is. #
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