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Natural Eating 101 Week 4: The True Culprit: Learned Helplessness

Posted by mmorand on April 23, 2011

It’s funny how much correspondence I will get about a general discussion topic but how little I will get from an email article that has anything whatsoever to do with topics like goal setting or learned helplessness. You know what I mean. It’s great to read and get ideas and to feel like someone else knows where you’re at and that there is hope for you to heal and be completely free of food and body image stress; the coping strategies of emotional eating, restriction (anorexia), or binging (binge eating disorder), or purging (bulimia) and the underlying co-dependent training and all-or-nothing thinking that trigger you to feel the need to do those things. That’s what we all want: a life that is free from self-harm and self-loathing and chronic anxiety and insecurity. And that’s what you can get from The CEDRIC Method and from working through these articles. (more…)

Tags: acceptance, all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, body/mind/spirit, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, exploring, forgiveness, growing, healing, learned helplessness, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, past, present, purging, rebalancing, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth

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Natural Eating 101: Week 3 How to Know if it’s Working

Posted by mmorand on April 9, 2011

So! 2 weeks ago we looked at The Diet Mentality in detail. Last week, we looked at the definition and characteristics of Natural Eating. This week, I’m going to be brief. Really, I am! What happened with your answers to the questions about your goals and your definitions of success from last week? Did you take the time to answer those questions and really get clear on what you would consider a successful outcome of our work together? I hope so. (more…)

Tags: anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, diet mentality, eating disorders, healing, nurturing, overeating, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth

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Natural Eating 101: Week 2 Natural Eating Defined

Posted by mmorand on April 2, 2011

Well hullooooo out there! It’s week 2 of our Natural Eating series and about time we fully looked at natural eating defined. Last week, we explored the antithesis or maybe we could even say, “the nemesis” of Natural eating…..(insert ominous theme music here….): The Diet Mentality. This nasty way of thinking turns you against your body and against yourself, and sets you on a vicious cycle of diminished self-esteem and increased self-harm and loathing. It’s got to go people!! But if you’re reading this then you’re already on it! (more…)

Tags: anorexia, anxiety, body image, body/mind/spirit, bulimia, CEDRIC Centre, compulsive eating, core beliefs, diet mentality, eating disorders, natural eating, self care, self esteem, self love

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Natural Eating 101: Week 1 The Diet Mentality

Posted by mmorand on March 26, 2011

Welcome. This is the first article in a series entitled Natural Eating 101 where we will focus on the diet mentality. Natural eating refers to an easy and peaceful relationship with food where you simply eat when you’re physically hungry, stop when you’re comfortably full, make honoring choices about what you eat overall, and have any food in moderation. No guilt. No shame. No sneaking, hiding, binging, restricting, purging. When you eat naturally, your body comes to its natural weight without rigorous exercise programs and without dieting or restricting. And it stays there. (more…)

Tags: acceptance, all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, body/mind/spirit, compulsive eating, core beliefs, diet mentality, eating disorders, healing, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth, triggers

Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Natural Eating 101, newsletter, Relationship with Others, Relationship with Self

Relationships 101 Week 5

Posted by mmorand on March 12, 2011

This article is part of a series: Relationships 101: Week 1, Week 2, Week 3, Week 4. Oh yeah!!! We’re back with Week 5 of Relationships 101: Seeking to Understand Relationships This series is my gift to you because I want you to have the greatest happiness and peace you possibly can in all your relationships. If you read and re-read this series until you really get it, and practice these key tools, you will find that all your connections get simpler, easier, deeper and more pleasurable for you and almost all of that happens without you having to have any “big” conversations and confrontations. This week’s article and homework assignment (should you choose to explore it) will prove this, and you’ll be so amazed at how easy and safe relating to others can be. Oh yeah!!! This week’s article “Seeking to understand” could just as aptly be called: “Allowing for the possibility that you have misunderstood someone.” (more…)

Tags: co-dependent relationships, exploring, forgiveness, grounding, growing, healing, insecurity, past, present, rebalancing, relationships, self care, self esteem

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The Fastest Path to Self-Confidence, Part Deux

Posted by mmorand on December 17, 2010

Last week I gave you a little task designed to help you begin to quickly get grounded in your right to feel and think as you do and to ask for what you need without guilt, shame, or insecurity and become self confident. I’ll recap the core message, since I know it’s been a busy 7 days, and some of you may have forgotten, or not have yet got around to reading last week’s article, The Fastest Path to Self-Confidence. The short version: If you’re using food to cope, you’re out of touch with reality. There, that about sums it up! Have a great week. Just joshin’! There’s more. Let me fill that statement above out a bit for you and then let’s move on to answering the question: “What can I do to feel more confident in my life as quickly as humanly possible, and in so doing, stop feeling so overwhelmed that I harm myself with binging, purging or restricting?” (more…)

Tags: acceptance, assumptions, binge eating, body/mind/spirit, co-dependent, communication, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorders, exploring, insecurity, intention, overeating, past, present, purging, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth

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The Fastest Path to Self-Confidence

Posted by mmorand on December 11, 2010

If you’ve been reading my blog for awhile then you’ve heard me say it before: Affirmations, just like diets, typically only work when you don’t really need them, and the path to self-confidence is the only real long term solution. By this I mean if you can actually diet successfully: Eat a lower number of calories than you have been eating consistently enough to lose weight and then maintain that weight loss with no continuous effort to restrict (otherwise you’re a chronic dieter and haven’t really accomplished your goal), you actually don’t need to diet in the first place because being able to do that means you’re a natural eater (which is what you’re here to learn how to be, I suspect). (more…)

Tags: acceptance, CEDRIC Centre, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, triggers

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, newsletter, Relationship with Self

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Reaction vs. Action

Posted by mmorand on November 26, 2010

I had a rough moment yesterday with my dear sweet son. He’s 10. He and his friends at school have been dabbling in using the word “gay” in a derogatory way and he’s made a few statements these past few months that I chastised him for in that regard. I had talked with him on a number of occasions, following these comments about people’s right to their own sexuality, about tolerance, about prejudice, and how to explore his own thoughts and beliefs to decide why he is saying what he’s saying. But….last night, I lost it. We were driving along on our way home from the grocery store and he mentioned that during class that day they were asked to make some notes about the qualities they would want in a babysitter (in preparation for them becoming potential sitters themselves). My son said that he wrote that he wouldn’t want anyone who is gay, bi, or lesbian to sit him. Well, I hit the roof! All these talks about respecting the rights of others, all these chats about tolerance and acceptance and consideration, all those heavy discussions about prejudice and the harm it does and he’s writing this?? (more…)

Tags: acceptance, CEDRIC Centre, self care, self esteem, self worth, triggers

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, newsletter, Relationship with Self

Perception is Truly Everything

Posted by mmorand on November 19, 2010

One of the most ironic things about those of us who use (or have used) food to cope is that we’re very smart. We’re also very intuitive. We’re also very trusting and as such, very vulnerable. This above all else means that if we ever hope to be truly free of binging or purging or restricting and any stressful focus on food, we need first and foremost to learn to listen to and respect ourselves about what we’re feeling and needing, and we need to absolutely trust ourselves to respect those feelings and the messages they contain about our needs at that time. We are not fools, and try as we might, we cannot pretend that we’re okay when we’re not or that something isn’t bothering us when it is. (more…)

Tags: acceptance, all-or-nothing thinking, anxiety, binging, CEDRIC Centre, past, present, purging, self care, self esteem, self worth, stress, triggers

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, Relationship with Self

Clothes and Self-Esteem

Posted by Cedric on November 17, 2010

Wearing comfortable clothes mean you’re not punishing yourself any longer and harming yourself with truckloads of bad body thoughts. Nothing will make you think nasty thoughts about your body faster and more frequently than tight or uncomfortable clothing. And if you’re one of many who use food to cope with your feelings, then your frustration, disgust, anger, sadness, fear, etc., that is triggered by your bad body thoughts will lead you to eat for comfort faster than anything else! So, if you’re resisting buying comfortable clothes because you don’t feel deserving or you want to “motivate” yourself to lose weight, please remind yourself that this line of thinking is all Drill Sgt. and no compassion, and that all you’ve ever gained by listening to the Drill Sgt. is low self-esteem and more weight. Unmet needs are at the bottom of your food and body image focus. Now it’s time to create a safe and respectful environment for yourself so you can meet your needs without harming yourself in the process.

Tags: self esteem

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