Posts Tagged drill sergeant
Posted by mmorand on June 25, 2011
Okay folks, we’re coming to the end of this series of Natural Eating Q&A articles and today I want to focus on releasing all or nothing thoughts.
This week, we have a little twist on the theme, with a specific focus on how our learned helplessness and the irrational, all-or-nothing thinking that’s at the root of it, makes this process of recovery so much harder and longer than it has to be. In fact, if you put even a few minutes of effort a day into catching the all-or-nothing stories we’ll be reviewing over the next few weeks, and responding as I suggest, you will see an immediate – I mean immediate – shift in your anxiety level and in your focus on food and use of food to cope. Not only that, but those stories just won’t come up anymore. You’ll never have to hear them again!
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Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, diet mentality, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, learned helplessness, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth
Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on June 4, 2011
Hello, and welcome to another instalment of our Natural Eating Q&A series.
This week we’re exploring the following question:
“How can I trust my body to know what it needs when, in the past, I always ended up binging? Clearly, I can’t trust myself to just let myself have whatever I want, right?”
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Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anxiety, binge eating, body/mind/spirit, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorders, exploring, forgiveness, healing, natural eating, overeating, past, recovery, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth
Posted in: Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on May 28, 2011
We are continuing our Natural Eating Q&A session with a question that comes up with each and every client I’ve ever supported through this process. It goes something like this:
“What if I try to check in but the voice in my head just says: “Who cares about checking in?! I just want food now!!!”
Well, this is a pretty simple one.
If you’re hearing that dialogue in your head when you realize you’re wanting to use food to cope, it absolutely, no exceptions, means that you’re feeling overwhelmed and you are afraid that if you don’t use food to cope in that moment, you’ll get consumed by the thoughts and feelings you’re trying to keep at bay through the act of eating (and then maybe purging or beating yourself up).
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Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, CEDRIC Centre, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder clinics, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, exploring, forgiveness, healing, list of stressors, nurturing, overeating, rebalancing, recovery, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth, triggers
Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on May 21, 2011
This week we’re continuing our fantabulous exploration of Natural Eating troubleshooting with an answer to the question:
“How do I “not feel guilty” for eating something when I’ve been telling myself/or others have been telling me for years that certain foods are just plain bad or that they’ll make me fat?”
First of all, when it comes to food, the most important thing we can do is to come back to Natural Eating basics whenever we feel anxious or unsettled around food, or feel drawn to eat when we aren’t hungry.
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Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anxiety, binge eating, body image, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, exploring, grounding, growing, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, recovery, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth
Posted in: Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on May 14, 2011
I hope you enjoyed the first instalment of the Natural Eating Q&A last week. As I mentioned in that article, I’m going to spend the next few weeks answering some questions that I often hear clients asking regarding natural eating.
Continuing on with the list of common questions that I posted in last week’s article, this week I’m going to address the question:
How do I know when I’m full?
For those of you who have been overeating to cope with stressful life situations and anxious thinking or depressed moods, it is quite possible that you have come to associate a feeling of over-full, or absolutely stuffed, with being full. It is important to learn to discern the difference between comfortable, appropriate levels of fullness and downright stuffed.
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Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, growing, healing, learned helplessness, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, recovery, self care, self esteem, self worth, triggers
Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on April 23, 2011
It’s funny how much correspondence I will get about a general discussion topic but how little I will get from an email article that has anything whatsoever to do with topics like goal setting or learned helplessness. You know what I mean. It’s great to read and get ideas and to feel like someone else knows where you’re at and that there is hope for you to heal and be completely free of food and body image stress; the coping strategies of emotional eating, restriction (anorexia), or binging (binge eating disorder), or purging (bulimia) and the underlying co-dependent training and all-or-nothing thinking that trigger you to feel the need to do those things. That’s what we all want: a life that is free from self-harm and self-loathing and chronic anxiety and insecurity. And that’s what you can get from The CEDRIC Method and from working through these articles.
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Tags: acceptance, all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, body/mind/spirit, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, exploring, forgiveness, growing, healing, learned helplessness, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, past, present, purging, rebalancing, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth
Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Natural Eating 101
Posted by mmorand on December 17, 2010
Last week I gave you a little task designed to help you begin to quickly get grounded in your right to feel and think as you do and to ask for what you need without guilt, shame, or insecurity and become self confident.
I’ll recap the core message, since I know it’s been a busy 7 days, and some of you may have forgotten, or not have yet got around to reading last week’s article, The Fastest Path to Self-Confidence.
The short version: If you’re using food to cope, you’re out of touch with reality.
There, that about sums it up!
Have a great week.
Just joshin’! There’s more.
Let me fill that statement above out a bit for you and then let’s move on to answering the question: “What can I do to feel more confident in my life as quickly as humanly possible, and in so doing, stop feeling so overwhelmed that I harm myself with binging, purging or restricting?”
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Tags: acceptance, assumptions, binge eating, body/mind/spirit, co-dependent, communication, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorders, exploring, insecurity, intention, overeating, past, present, purging, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth
Posted in: CEDRIC Centre, Relationship with Others, Relationship with Self
Posted by Cedric on November 29, 2010
Sometimes as we get caught up in the day-to-day busyness of life it is so easy to forget that the Drill Sgt. even exists. We’re so used to him running the show it just feels like “us.” So we may not even notice the criticism or the feelings of frustration, resentment, hopelessness, despair, loathing and disgust that may be a part of the Drill Sgt’s “motivation through criticism.”
It is important to commit to a few minutes each day when you’ll invite yourself to be conscious of your self-talk. Just a few minutes to try the techniques we’ve been exploring will make a huge difference in your use of food to cope and your life overall.
Posted by Cedric on November 21, 2010
The Drill Sgt. is caught up in co-dependency. He’s caught up in needing everyone else’s approval first and foremost. Then and only then will he let you attend to any esteem or self-respect needs of your own. Well, you know firsthand that there is absolutely no way to meet everyone’s needs. There is always someone who will be unhappy or frustrated or want more or less, or something other than what you’re offering.
Understanding this point and how it impacts you is very important. You see, when you really get that your focus on meeting the needs of others is harming you and preventing you from meeting your own needs, thus forcing you to numb out with your food and body focus coping strategies, you will begin to allow for the possibility that you might better serve yourself and others by attending to your needs first.
Now as far as the Drill Sgt. is concerned, I have just committed a sacrilege. "Meet your own needs before you meet those of others?" He says. "That’s a sure path to ostracism, judgement and vanity." So of course he’s going to have some resistance and uncertainty about a new way of thinking. It’s time to ask yourself how well the old way of thinking is working for you.
Posted by mmorand on November 6, 2010
This week’s article is all about a coping strategy that most people can totally relate to at some time in their lives- procrastination. And, I can guarantee you that if you’re using food to cope, you can relate to it now, in a big way!
Procrastination doesn’t have to be a big deal or a stressful thing if we see it for what it really is and just allow ourselves to look a little deeper. More on that in a moment.
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