You could say “What goes around comes around.” Or “Do unto others as you would have done to you.” Or “Namaste.”
There is something precious in each of us. Even my dear mentor, Abraham Maslow asserted this by putting self-actualization (the realization of our full potential and the expression of our innate gifts) at the tippy top of his hierarchy. Being solid and grounded in your own esteem allows you the confidence and space in your head to see and acknowledge the strengths in others and their specialness, without feeling in any way diminished yourself. To me that is Namaste. I recognize that I am unique and have gifts to bring the world and I recognize the same in you. I celebrate them in fact and want to support you as best I can to make them manifest in the world because I know that makes the world a better place on so many levels.
You will likely recall the same sentiment echoed in Marianne Williamson’s poem, Our Deepest Fear:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Recognizing our strengths and being proud of them does not imply we think we are better than others or separate from them (ie. that we don’t need to consider their needs and the impact of our actions on them), it means we love and care for ourselves, and that makes us more able to love and care for our communities, our country, and our world. Being the best you can be benefits us all in huge ways. So if there is any part of you that thinks healing and growing and shaking this self-judgement and harmful food coping strategy thing off doesn’t make a difference to anyone, think again.
Shine baby, shine. Or should I say, Namaste.Love