Sometimes we resist seeing things a new or different way, despite much supporting evidence because we fear that if we let go of our story that means we have to say that events didn’t impact or harm us. Trust me, that isn’t so. You were clearly impacted by those events or you wouldn’t have had to use the coping strategy of co-dependency and food and body image focus.
No one is disputing that you were impacted. What I’m saying is that instead of just being impacted once for each incident, which is traumatic enough, the old core belief that you carry only serves to re-injure you daily. You don’t deserve that and it does not benefit you in any way. It is my intention to support you to stop.