Once you have acknowledged your desire to use food to cope and your underlying needs and feelings associated with it (which takes but a few seconds, once you have done it a handful of times), you are ready for validation. Your feelings are valid. Your feelings are appropriate, natural cues which arise in your body to signal you and let you know when something requires attention. They are always perfectly appropriate for the circumstance, because the circumstance, as you experience it, is not what is happening for someone else or outside of yourself. It is what is happening in your head – what you are telling yourself is going on.