If you are experiencing feelings of concern, doubt, and resistance (particularly to the concept of “self-love” and “self-care”), remember that this is your Drill Sgt. who is desperate to maintain the status quo. He fears your contemplation of self-love because, to him, this is akin to complacency and means you are going to give up.
From his perspective, it is an excuse to be lazy, and you are not permitted to be lazy or to rest until you have met the Drill Sgt.’s criteria for acceptability. And this is only because he really does think he knows best. What he knows is “motivation through criticism” and not motivation through love and compassion. In a nutshell, this is why are are where you are today.