Posted by mmorand on March 5, 2011
“When I use my tools, they work! Things are easier, more peaceful. I just don’t feel the need to use food to cope when I use my tools.”
I hear this a lot from clients. And it’s true.
However, from clients who are a little new with the process, there is usually a “…but” attached to the end of it and the rest of the statement sounds something like, “…it’s just so hard to use my tools.” Or “….it takes too long and I don’t have the time or energy to do anything other than eat.” Or even “….what if they stop working? I need to hang on to my use of food to cope, just in case my new tools stop working.”
This is such an important topic, that we did an audio podcast on the subject as well.
Read the original When I Use My Tools, They Work! article here.
Listen to the When I Use My Tools, They Work! audio podcast here.
Hi Michelle,
I was just looking over the newsletter again and thinking what a great role model you are—coming right out and telling us you’re taking some time to take care of yourself. If I could just learn to say those words, such as, “I’m sorry, I can’t do that with you tonight, I need some personal down time.” or “I need to take care of myself right now, so I’ll let you know as soon as I can look after this for you.”…if I could do that without judging myself by worrying about who else might be judging me, I would never have to use food for comfort again.
I struggle with what I should do to help my children overcome their struggles and I KNOW the best thing I can do is be a good role model for them, but experiencing the effect of seeing that in action for myself in you, MIchelle, makes it seem so much more real and attainable. What a gift. Thank you.
Big hug for you, Suzanne
PS And there is NO doubt about it…when I use my tools, they work! 😉