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Who Says? Review

Posted by mmorand on October 15, 2011

Hello! Before I dive in to this week’s article which is a response to a question/sharing from a newsletter reader I thought I’d share a piece of feedback I received that will help you to appreciate the value of giving this a try: “Recently I made a comment and was judged for it. I felt terrible because this is an issue I have had before and I want so badly to be a person who is accepted and thought well of. When I went through the questions I realized that the person who had criticized me was likely insecure too and it wasn’t JUST about me. It was a helpful exercise.” That’s great news!! I love hearing how just a few minutes of conscious, structured exploration can bring such peace and clarity!! Yay! And now for this week’s question and answer from Anna. “I so desperately want to be a gracious person but it seems I am always coming out with some comment that is less than gracious or some overreaction. I envy my neighbour who is truly gracious and even though I observe how it is done I can’t get there myself and often feel judged for my reactions and beat myself up repeatedly about this. I realize you can’t become someone else overnight but my progress is so slow that sometimes I feel I am peddling backwards. On the other hand if I’m constantly on guard and managing my image I feel like a boring flat person.” Thanks for taking time to share your observations and frustrations here Anna. (more…)

Tags: anorexia, binge eating, binge/purge, bulimia, Chronic dieting, compulsive_eating, coping with stress, emotional_eating, healthy_relationships, restricting_food, using food to cope

Posted in: Relationship with Others, Relationship with Self, Relationships 101

Who Says?

Posted by mmorand on October 7, 2011

Hello all!! For this week +- Last week we were noticing comparisons, and the week before we were observing the tone we used to speak in certain situations and what it means about how we’re feeling and perceiving ourselves. I have yet to receive any direct feedback on the comparison recon and will follow up with you on how to make best use of this assignment when I do. So, if you tried the exercise and are just a bit too shy or self-critical to share what you learned, remember you can always share and ask for your personal information to be kept private. This week I want you to pay special attention to:

Any time that you feel silly, small, stupid, or judged.
Any time you find yourself imagining a situation in the future where something will happen that you believe will trigger those feelings of insecurity.

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Tags: binge_and_purge, body image, bulimia, compulsive_eating, eating disorder treatment, emotional_eating, emotional_triggers, Feeling_insecure, feeling_judged, feeling_silly, restricting_food, self esteem, self worth, stress_eating

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Comparing Yourself to Others

Posted by mmorand on October 1, 2011

I know, I know. You don’t do that! But maybe someone you know does….? Just kidding! We all do it – even the healthiest of us fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others from time to time. If we’re using food to cope or any other harmful coping strategy, I guarantee you, you are spending far more time than is helpful or necessary comparing yourself to others. This exercise will help you notice when you’re getting caught in the comparison game and help you to understand why you do it and how to step free. Below are some suggestions of things to be noticing over the next week. Email me and tell me what you notice and we’ll have a dialogue about some simple things you can do to feel more confident in your own skin and less attached to what others have or do or think or feel. We can’t be free of our use of food to cope with stress until we understand where our stress comes from and create effective, life-enhancing ways of thinking and behaving in stressful situations. So, let’s go! (more…)

Tags: anorexia, binge, bulimia, Comparing eating disorders, compulsive eating, counselling-for-eating-disorders, emotional_eating, health "Bulimia nervosa" stress help recovery, purge, teleclass-for-eating-disorders

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Recovery Overview and ‘Check Your Tone’ Review

Posted by mmorand on October 1, 2011

Hello out there! Last week I invited you to explore a key piece of reconnaissance. The assignment was as follows: Notice the different tone in your voice at different times, with different people, and around different topics. Please review last week’s article if you missed it and give it a try this week, it will help immensely in your recovery. If you gave the homework a go you likely noticed that your tone and body language changed radically depending on who you were talking to and where and what topic you were covering. Some adjustment of tone is appropriate given the topic and the location and the person. Ie. It wouldn’t be appropriate to speak to the bank teller in the same intimate tone that we use for our partner in a tender moment. At least not in most cultures that I know of. This of course is not to say that we can’t feel love in our heart for everyone we meet and be warm and caring towards them. It is stating though that our emotions naturally come through in our tone. (more…)

Tags: anorexia, binge, bulimia, compulsive eating, compulsive_eating eating disorders, counselling-for-eating-disorders, emotional_eating, health "Bulimia nervosa" stress help recovery, purge, teleclass-for-eating-disorders

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Natural Eating Check In For Beginners

Posted by mmorand on September 10, 2011

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Tags: anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, binge-purge, bulimia, CEDRIC Centre, compulsive eating, eating disorder clinics, eating disorders, natural eating, overeating, purging, rebalancing

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Mastering The Green-Eyed Monster

Posted by mmorand on August 27, 2011

I am a specialist who works with those who are frustrated with their bodies and their relationship with food (those who binge or restrict or purge in any way). As you can imagine, in my conversations with clients, the topic of feeling envious of the seeming ease and comfort that others feel in their bodies and with food and then consequently feeling guilty/shameful for feeling envious, comes up daily. As such, I have, from my own recovery process and countless hours with clients, devised a quick little tool to shift those icky, jealous feelings and the underlying needs that triggered them. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you’ll never, ever again start to feel those stirrings of “Why them and not me!?” around those people/places/things that we would like for ourselves or conversely, “Why me and not them!!!?” around those things that we’d really have preferred not to have experienced in our brief but action-packed lives. (more…)

Tags: binge eating, binging, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, eating disorder clinics, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, purging, recovery, restricting, self care, self confidence, self esteem, self love, self worth, triggers

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How to Learn to Eat Naturally Again: The CEDRIC Method Step-by-Step Process

Posted by mmorand on August 20, 2011

This week I’m sharing a brief but invaluable tool for any of you who would like to be able to trust yourself to be around any food, in any quantity, any time. Sound good? If you follow these steps, you will quickly be able to identify when you’re using food to cope vs. when you are just confused about what to eat and how much, and getting anxious because of that. If you’re at a point in your use of the core CEDRIC Method tools where you are able to manage your stress in rational, life-enhancing ways, you’ll also be able, in a 2-3 weeks, to trust your body to know what and how much it needs, and as a result, you’ll feel much more peaceful and at ease in your body and around food. (more…)

Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, binge eating, binging, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, diet mentality, drill sergeant, Drill Sgt., eating disorders, learned helplessness, purging, use food to cope

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Yoga and All or Nothing Thinking

Posted by Cedric on August 13, 2011

When I think back on the incredible insecurity and self-consciousness I used to feel just leaving my house in the morning, I think it’s truly remarkable that I was able to take part in classes such as yoga and meditation and personal growth workshops, etc., before my recovery from binge eating and exercise bulimia. There was something in me that knew, as there clearly is in you if you are reading this, that there had to be some way for me to be in the world without feeling so bloody small and anxious all the time. I mean, others could do it. Or at least it seemed like they could. So maybe, just maybe, I could too. And so the 20-year-old me existed with fingers crossed; breath held; hoping for the best but fearing the worst, sheepishly inching forward. Ahhh, but at least I was moving forward! (more…)

Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, healthy eating, insecurity, meditation, natural eating, recovery, self care, self esteem, triggers, yoga

Posted in: All-or-Nothing Thinking

Establishing a Normal Relationship with Food

Posted by mmorand on July 30, 2011 This week, I’m writing in response to a question from a web program participant as part of a web program forum discussion about establishing a normal relationship with food. Since my answer to her question was rather lengthy and detailed and, I believe, relevant to you all, I thought I’d share the question and answer here for this week’s “Tools for Recovery” article. Question: If we’ve spent years using food to cope and stuck in the Diet Mentality, how the hell do we have a clue what is normal around what to eat and how much? Michelle’s Answer: In my own personal recovery and my 17 years as a specialist in this field, if there’s one thing I have learned, it is this: In the early stages of recovery, it is not helpful to focus on food in a structured way or to get caught up in some external meter of what to eat, when or how much. (more…)

Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anorexia, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorder treatment, eating disorders, list of stressors, natural eating, nurturing, overeating, rebalancing, recovery, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth, triggers

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Lunch and All-or-Nothing Thinking

Posted by mmorand on July 23, 2011

Here’s a quick story about All-or-Nothing Thinking. So today, I was leisurely driving along on my way to an appointment, having left myself ample time to get from point A to point B. I had packed a lunch to take with me – a whole, skinless chicken breast that I had cooked the night before in garlic and sesame oil, (naturally making a few extra than I needed last night so my husband and I would have an easy, healthy lunch prepared); a container of fresh strawberries, washed, (I rinsed them well before I left the office this afternoon); an avocado; an apple and banana. Noticing I was feeling peckish and that my appointment was 90 minutes long, decided to eat something. I had one hand on the wheel and one hand on a chicken breast as I munched happily, listening to my favourite pop tunes playlist, which, at that point was serenading me with some vintage Fleetwood Mac, and enjoying more of that fabulous sun we’ve been having. (more…)

Tags: all-or-nothing thinking, anxiety, binge eating, body image, bulimia, compulsive eating, core beliefs, drill sergeant, eating disorders, insecurity, overeating, self care, self esteem, self love, self worth, triggers

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