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Greatings , Hello all, it's Michelle here, hoping you had a great week. What a rush to see how many of you value the newsletter so well that
you'll take the time to ask to continue to receive it. We all receive so
much spam and ad mail that I think it says a great deal about your
enjoyment of the newsletter that you're actively requesting it. The Victoria Health Show ran this weekend and, as my booth mate Karen
is away in India for the next 6 weeks, I was on my own. I absolutely loved the experience of some of my past clients stopping by. It was wonderful to see how you have taken the tools and run with them. Such wonderful change in all areas of your lives was so heart warming and reinforcing for me that what we are doing at CEDRIC makes a difference. Thank you for that gift. And last but not least: We have received a communication from Karen, who is traveling in India. She has arrived safe and sound and is loving the experience at the Ashram. We hope you'll have a wonderful week and thank you for being a member of our community.  Love Michelle, Karen, Beth et al
I attended the Victoria health and wellness show this weekend. I also
gave a presentation at the show on Sunday to a room of 130 people. It was
a blast, I so enjoyed the whole experience. And, you know, presenting for
me used to be such a scary thing. Early in my recovery, when I was still
quite full of the diet mentality and my old core beliefs, I really wanted
to speak publicly. Part of me enjoyed it so much but I was so preoccupied
with my own bad body thoughts and self-judgement that all I could think
about was how fat I must look or how stupid I must sound. These thoughts
would understandably undermine the quality of my presentation and I would
come away feeling awful. To read more of this article click here: Tools for Recovery
Well, I was so touched by the great feedback and encouragement we received this week regarding our newsletter I thought I'd share some of those comments with the rest of you readers as our "Quotes for your reflection" for this week. Hi Everyone, I love getting the newsletter and read it often and save
all the old ones so I can go back and re-read them. I've really missed it
in the last few months, and maybe that's why I'm in a slump because it
certainly gives me incentive to do what I know I should. So please put me
on the list to keep receiving it, and thanks a million for all the hard
work that goes into producing it.
As parents of someone struggling with disordered eating, one of your
greatest tools to cope with the stresses that come up will be the tool of
"Detachment". Hearing this word may bring to mind images of cold, steely
indifference. In fact, detachment is anything but that. Quite simply,
detachment is the ability to see the limits of our power over other
people, places and things. We can love others, but we do not have the
power to control their lives. That power rests within each of us as
self-determining individuals. Detaching from a loved one who is struggling
to overcome an eating disorder will involve examining our own anxiety and
powerlessness in watching someone we love make choices that are harmful.
Where previously we might have offered advice, or issued threats or bullying tactics in order to get our loved one to act in the way "we want them to", now, with the tool of detachment, we will acknowledge that the power to change rests within our loved one, and we will make statements acknowledging that. Detachment also means allowing others the dignity to create their own life and reality. It is a paradox, but the more we take our hands off of another persons life and give them the "space" to make their own choices, the more they will step up and begin to take responsibility for their own actions. Building detachment as an element of character takes determination and effort but the rewards are worth it. Detachment will transform the way we experience and express love and concern. Previously we saw co- dependent over involvement as love. All the major religions speak of the quality of detachment as a manifestation of love. In Buddhism it is the experience of equanimity. In Christianity, it called being in the world but not of the world. When we disengage our emotions from the actions of our loved one that is practicing detachment. Detachment also means focusing more on our own thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Often, in being overly emotionally enmeshed with a loved one, we have lost sight of ourself and have become completely consumed with the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours of our loved one.
Just to remind you that we've got our weekend intensive workshop on February 16 - 18th and a new Phase I group starting February 10th. For more details visit our web page E vents Listing
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