What will it take for you to think you are okay?
Where did you get the message that you weren’t okay?
What will it take for you to trust that you are okay just as you are?
Often times when we are beginning to explore recovery and still struggling with food and weight stress it is too hard for us to think in terms of what we do want or what we’d most like to see. But ask us what we don’t want in ourselves, our bodies, our relationships with others and anywhere else in the world and we’ve got an answer for you.
So, try it this way:
What don’t you like about yourself?
What do you think that others judge in you/don’t like about you?
What makes you think that you are not okay as you are?
Now ask yourself:
If I could change those things that I don’t like and think that others don’t like about me, how would I feel about me and about life?
And what gets in the way of me doing that?
Is it that you don’t know how? Think you don’t have the time or the money? Think you can’t ever change those things because you haven’t been able to yet?
All of those stories about why you can’t succeed in being who you’d most like to be are what I call all-or-nothing or ‘extreme and limited’ thinking.
None of them are true.
Just because you don’t know how doesn’t mean you can’t. Do you know everything? Have you really tried everything? No you haven’t. You’ve likely tried the same thing over and over, expecting a different result because you thought it was you who was failing and not the approach.
My favorite quote on this topic is from Success Coach Barbara Sher: ‘When too many people fail a requirement, there is nothing wrong with them,there is something wrong with the requirement.”
I’d say when you have a society that is obsessed with looks and weight loss and people are increasingly insecure and depressed there isn’t anything wrong with those people – there is something wrong with the obsession.
If you’d like things to change and you’re ready to feel good – really good – about yourself, email me and I’ll show you how in simple steps that will just make sense to you and change the way you think and feel forever.