What happened with your answers to the questions about your goals and your definitions of success from last week? Did you take the time to answer those questions and really get clear on what you would consider a successful outcome of our work together? I hope so.
Get those ideas of what success around food and body image is for you, out of your noggin and down on paper or on your computer screen.
Allow yourself to really see what you’re shooting for. The clearer your perception of your goals, the easier it is to establish the steps you’re going to take to meet them. It’s also easier to catch any unrealistic expectations, which, if left unchecked, will only ever keep you feeling stuck and like a failure.
Where are you now in your Diet Mentality? Answer the following questions to find out.
- How often in a day, or in a week, do you not eat when you are hungry or resist having what you really want even when you are hungry?
- How often in a day/week do you eat more than you’re hungry for or have foods that you don’t want but feel compelled to have?
Whatever your answer, we are shooting for an ideal scenario where the answer to the first question is “never,” and the answer to the second question is “rarely.”
When that is your truth, you will be eating naturally. You will be coming to a natural and easily-sustainable weight for your body without dieting/restricting and without rigorous exercise programs.
So, where are you now? How often do you engage in those Diet Mentality behaviours?
Whether you like it or not, that is your truth. That is your starting point at this time.
So, to make sure that you know that you’re headed in the right direction and to make it easier to assess your progress in this process from The Diet Mentality to Natural Eating, take some time now (10 mins. max) and write out where you are now (e.g. Restrict throughout the day, most days. Binge at night, most nights.) and where you’d like to be (e.g. Eat when hungry, stop when full, everything is allowable in moderation.), and then fill in three – yes three – interim stages that you will use as interim goals to determine that you’re making progress. Make them reasonable and well spaced so that the steps between each are balanced. Feel free to send them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you want me to check them out for you.
If you clarify your goals and how you’ll assess that you’re making progress on the way from here to there and read over the natural eating and diet mentality handouts from the previous article in this series, you will begin to see change in your relationship with food, I guarantee it. Tune in next week for some Natural Eating troubleshooting (which really means, some sneaky Diet Mentality removal)!