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If you do what you’ve always done… ~ Another stellar tool in my proverbial belt

If you do what you've always done

Drill sergeant, voice of my long gone mother, internal dialogue that diminishes and lies to me, you better be shaking in your boots, because I have discovered one more tangible thing to do to overcome you.

I have, here on my safety tool belt that I have festooned with colourful stickers of flowers of every kind, so it matches my laptop and cell phone, along with my other tools (eat nuts instead of junk, read the label to avoid eating x, y, z; track daughter’s  menstrual cycles simultaneously, how to ‘ground’, what to put in homemade fresh juices and why, etc.), another tool that I picked up in my day to day media scrounges.

I’m a very curious animal and am constantly rooting through the internet and available tv media on all 400+ channels and now that I am processing all this intense evolutionary stuff through my experience working with CEDRIC philosophy, I am learning much more about myself than I ever knew possible.

I realize that I’m becoming self literate at last! Intentionally self protective, able to delineate what my own needs and preferences are, and now I have the chance to become even more personally responsible, taking a thought, and turning it into a more physical thing that defuses that thought and at the same time, becomes part of what I need to motivate me to more action, and less sedentary living.

I was looking at the tv this morning while I was also pondering things,  that I’d been sharing in here,  about the Drill Sergeant, thatis, the part of our internal dialogue that lies to us, disguises itself as our own thoughts and that overall seeks to minimize our self importance in a very demeaning way. Isn’t it great when synchronicity rears its head just when you have a question about something?

I was ruminating the idea that there has to be some way to initiate the changes that make the Drill Sergeant less effective when I happened to turn onto a PBS channel that was televising the philosophy and beliefs on a Dr. Daniel Amen, who has done extensive studies about the human brain. One of the most effective tidbits that I got out of the little tease of a talk he was sharing to sell his book, was when he began speaking about how if you do what you’ve always done, nothing is going to change.

That made sense, sure. But then he clinched it with his next comment. When you are feeling like that negative internal dialogue is getting to you, get up and move. Put on headphones, listen to music ( I assume he meant music that is NOT sappy) and move. Go for a brisk walk that raises your heart rate and the resulting hormonal and internal chemical responses will cause the internal diatribe to cease.

So another tool snaps onto my trusty belt, ever arming me with more handy, dandy devices and skills with which to outwit, out think, outfox anything life can throw at me.

I know that every step I take towards my own well being is a step that reverberates all through my life and even the small ones, like this very small step to use as a tool against self turned negativity is another brick in the wall of self protection that I am designing as per my specifications.

I have googled the kind Dr. responsible for my ‘Aha!’ today, but am not interested in starting another whole gamut of reading as his books and programs offered aren’t readily available (however are available for a fee), but I am liking the common sense of using the body’s natural chemistry as generated by a brisk walk as a means to changing the outcome of my immediate mindset.

My toolbelt is getting a little crowded these days, I’m going to have to upgrade to a proverbial backpack soon. If the saying is true that if you do what you’ve always done, you get what you always got, I’m upgrading so fast these days, I’m never going to look back at what I always did, except to know why I’m avoiding it!

I hope you find it fits on your tool belt, too!

And one more thing,  CEDRIC has two workshops that are group sessions, coming up – dynamic sessions where not only do you find new tools, but you see in group process how well they work when we are called to use them. Check out more about the workshops coming up HERE.

Tina Budeweit-Weeks is a member of the CEDRIC Success Team in the role of staff writer and executive assistant for Michelle Morand. Her philosophy has always been one of self-nurturance and dignity. In support of the complex difficulties clients may experience around regaining a healthy balance, Tina’s writing is designed to sympathize, support, encourage and inform. Although there are many similarities in Tina’s process, she is not a client, but a hard working, behind-the-scenes member of the team, dedicated to helping the CEDRIC Centre stay current and effective.

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