So, if you’re resisting buying comfortable clothes because you don’t feel deserving or you want to “motivate” yourself to lose weight, please remind yourself that this line of thinking is all Drill Sgt. and no compassion, and that all you’ve ever gained by listening to the Drill Sgt. is low self-esteem and more weight. Unmet needs are at the bottom of your food and body image focus. Now it’s time to create a safe and respectful environment for yourself so you can meet your needs without harming yourself in the process.