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Podcast: When I Use My Tools, They Work

When I Use My Tools, They Work

Listen to the Podcast  or if you prefer the written version, Read the Archived Article.

I’ve posted a snippet of the article here for you to read. Just click on the link to read or listen to more:

“When I use my tools, they work! Things are easier, more peaceful. I just don’t feel the need to use food to cope when I use my tools.”

I hear this a lot from clients. And it’s true.

However, from clients who are a little new with the process, there is usually a “…but” attached to the end of it and the rest of the statement sounds something like, “…it’s just so hard to use my tools.” Or “….it takes too long and I don’t have the time or energy to do anything other than eat.”  Or even “….what if they stop working? I need to hang on to my use of food to cope just in case my new tools stop working.”

Okay, for starters, under what circumstances could increased awareness and compassion for yourself and others ever stop working for anything? They are the key to the happiness in every single happy person. That last statement, “…what if they stop working…” if you’ve ever thought it, is a great indicator that your Drill Sgt. is in charge of your healing in that moment and not your adult self.  The all-or-nothing thinking; The doubt; The belief that coping with food actually helps you in any way and would be a good thing to hold on to are all indicators that your mind has kicked into one of the basic characteristics of the Drill Sgt.: Learned Helplessness.

In essence you’re saying to yourself “I don’t really think anything but food can make me “feel better” and I don’t really think I can learn to resolve my underlying stressors so I have to keep my numbing tactics at the ready.”

If that’s the mindset that you are bringing to this process – which it is – because no one who uses food to cope ever does so from any place other than learned helplessness – this process can feel hard and like it takes a long time. My role in your life is to shift you out of that stuck, all-or-nothing headspace asap and get you into a possibilities mindset where you genuinely realize the many options in each situation and you don’t default into that stuck, sinking feeling that makes you believe the only solution is to restrict, or binge, or purge.

Common learned helplessness statements sound like this:

  1. I can’t do anything about X;
  2. Life will always be like Y;
  3. I will always be stuck/lonely/unhappy/insecure;
  4. Change is too hard;
  5. It’s too overwhelming;
  6. There’s too much to do;
  7. Others will be upset with me;
  8. I don’t even know where to begin;
  9. I can’t!!

When you think of not using food to cope and you feel sad and scared and disappointed, it’s only because the part of you that is thinking about using food to cope in that moment is the part of you that believes that you can not truly feel peaceful and nurtured and safe and comforted without food. Thus it imagines that what’s really going to happen when you use your tools instead of eating is that you’ll still feel anxious and overwhelmed but you won’t let yourself comfort yourself with food. So of course it resists using the tools. Who wouldn’t!

That’s the same part of you that believes that using your tools is a lot of work, that it’s hard and that it won’t actually lead to any lasting change anyway. We call that the Drill Sgt. and his characteristic “learned helplessness.”  

Read more of Tools for How to stop binging, overeating, emotional eating and dieting.

Posted in: 2012, All-or-Nothing Thinking, Audios, Podcast, Relationship with Food, Relationship with Self, Self-Checklist

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Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity (Podcast)

Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity (Podcast)

If you’ve ever wondered why certain people or situations trigger you to feel so insecure or jealous at times, this recording will give you the answer. Listen to Michelle Morand’s Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity (Podcast)

Our insecurities often lead us to use food to cope, whether through dieting or restriction, overeating, or through full disordered eating such as anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorder. 

Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to understand why you feel insecure and to be able to take action to start feeling stronger and more confident in yourself today? Imagine how likely you’d be to reach for food to cope if you felt confident and secure in yourself overall? Listen in to this week’s podcast and learn what’s at the root of your jealousy and insecurity and some simple things you can do to change that pattern today.

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, Podcast

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Natural Eating Podcast

Natural Eating Podcast

This week  we have a Natural Eating podcast for you.

Natural eating simply means eating like a normal person (forgive me for saying that – it must seem that dieting and being obsessed about weight is the new norm, but read on to see what I mean).

Normal, natural eating looks like this:

You eat when you’re hungry; you stop when you’re full; everything is in moderation and you feel no guilt nor any body image judgement for the kinds of foods you’re eating or the quantities because you trust yourself to be reasonable and balanced.

If you’re not approaching food this way it is highly likely that you struggle with weight loss and body image stress and that you find yourself ricocheting back and forth between binging and restricting day in and day out.

This podcast will help you understand what is not working in your current approach to food and what you can start to experiment with that will change the stress you feel about eating and lead to natural – non-diet-based weight loss that lasts.

As soon as you can allow for the possibility that the problem is not your willpower or commitment to eating well or being healthy and fit but that’s it is actually the belief that dieting will help you to feel better and that there is something wrong with you for not being able to stick to the diet-du-jour, you are beginning to step free and you can be very quickly successful with this process of eating naturally and being a natural weight for your body effortlessly.

Explore the Natural Eating handout, print it out and post in on your fridge. Give yourself the gift of reinforcing these new ways of thinking and being around food a bit each day and you’ll be amazed how quickly you return to your natural state of being physically and mentally.

Natural Eating Handout

And if you’d like to get some help and see how fast and simple changing your approach to food and feeling good about yourself can be, email me and we will get started towards you freeing yourself from food and body stress.

Love Michelle
mmorand@cedriccentre.com

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, Podcast

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When I Use My Tools They Work

When I Use My Tools They Work

We hope that you’re following the new CEDRIC Centre podcasts available on iTunes.

You can subscribe via iTunes and download the latest podcast to your iPod, iPhone or any other mp3 player compatible with iTunes.

Here’s the latest:

When I Use My Tools They Work


Here’s a little snippet from the article of the same title to give you a sense of what we’ll be talking about:

“When I use my tools, they work! Things are easier, more peaceful. I just don’t feel the need to use food to cope when I use my tools.”

I hear this a lot from clients. And it’s true.

However, from clients who are a little new with the process, there is usually a “…but” attached to the end of it and the rest of the statement sounds something like, “…it’s just so hard to use my tools.” Or “….it takes too long and I don’t have the time or energy to do anything other than eat.”  Or even “….what if they stop working? I need to hang on to my use of food to cope just in case my new tools stop working.”

Okay, for starters, under what circumstances could increased awareness and compassion for yourself and others ever stop working for anything? They are the key to the happiness in every single happy person. That last statement, “…what if they stop working…” if you’ve ever thought it, is a great indicator that your Drill Sgt. is in charge of your healing in that moment and not your adult self.  The all-or-nothing thinking; The doubt; The belief that coping with food actually helps you in any way and would be a good thing to hold on to are all indicators that your mind has kicked into one of the basic characteristics of the Drill Sgt.: Learned Helplessness.

In essence you’re saying to yourself “I don’t really think anything but food can make me “feel better” and I don’t really think I can learn to resolve my underlying stressors so I have to keep my numbing tactics at the ready.”

If that’s the mindset that you are bringing to this process – which it is – because no one who uses food to cope ever does so from any place other than learned helplessness – this process can feel hard and like it takes a long time. My role in your life is to shift you out of that stuck, all-or-nothing headspace asap and get you into a possibilities mindset where you genuinely realize the many options in each situation and you don’t default into that stuck, sinking feeling that makes you believe the only solution is to restrict, or binge, or purge.

Read the rest of the article.

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, Podcast

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Food is Not the Problem: Find Out What Is!

Welcome to the CEDRIC Centre’s podcast. We provide counselling to people all over the world who struggle with food and body image stress. Whether you have an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating disorder; whether you overeat, restrict, purge or simply focus on diets and calories and body image more than you’d like the CEDRIC Centre’s specialized method will teach you how to find your way back to an easy and peaceful relationship with food that leaves you at a natural weight for your body with no dieting, in fact, with no focus on food at all. We know that food is not the problem.

We’ll help you to quickly uncover what’s really triggering your overeating or restriction and we’ll show you simple tools to overcome your food and body image stress completely and forever. We’re the experts in getting you from “I’m stuck” to Unstuck!  We offer counselling anywhere in the world.

We also have a phenomenal web based counselling program with a perfect blend of self-help, peer support and teleclasses/group counselling.  We also offer intensive retreats at our centre’s in Vancouver and Victoria, BC and we have complete line of products including our groundbreaking book “Food is not the Problem: Deal With What Is!” as well as cd’s, dvd’s and workbooks. Visit our web site @ www.cedriccentre.com to find out more about how we can help you to quickly and completely overcome your stressful relationship with food. Or call toll free (in Canada and the US) @ 1-866-393-0797 (1-250-383-0797 if you live elsewhere).  We welcome hearing from you and know you’ll enjoy the podcast!  Have a great day!

Posted in: 2010, CEDRIC Centre, Podcast

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