Comments on: Internal vs. External Locus of Control http://www.cedriccentre.com/blog/internal-vs-external-locus-of-control/ We Gently Deal with What Is... Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:04:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Karen http://www.cedriccentre.com/blog/internal-vs-external-locus-of-control/comment-page-1/#comment-6090 Karen Sat, 23 Jan 2010 23:18:58 +0000 http://www.cedriccentre.com/blog/?p=1822#comment-6090 I can't tell you how much I appreciate all the help I received from you on this piece of my life Michelle. I was truly focused outward in all of the relationships in my life. I know my 'need to be needed' was sucking me dry. I went to the extreme end of the spectrum with this and your helping me disengage from harmful and demanding relationships, and deal better with all others, has made such a big difference in my life. Although I am still pulled (by longstanding habit) to attend to the needs of others, I am able to look at this pull for what it is and resist it. I have much more peace in my life now and I have days where I can wake and feel joyful that I can do anything I want I don't have to do what someone else wants me to do. The scale has started to inch downward as, within this new state of peace, I can stop and ask myself,"Is this a loving choice to make for myself?" Thank you again for your wisdom and patience, Karen I can’t tell you how much I appreciate all the help I received from you on this piece of my life Michelle. I was truly focused outward in all of the relationships in my life. I know my ‘need to be needed’ was sucking me dry. I went to the extreme end of the spectrum with this and your helping me disengage from harmful and demanding relationships, and deal better with all others, has made such a big difference in my life. Although I am still pulled (by longstanding habit) to attend to the needs of others, I am able to look at this pull for what it is and resist it. I have much more peace in my life now and I have days where I can wake and feel joyful that I can do anything I want I don’t have to do what someone else wants me to do. The scale has started to inch downward as, within this new state of peace, I can stop and ask myself,”Is this a loving choice to make for myself?”

Thank you again for your wisdom and patience,

Karen

]]> By: Gina Vanderham http://www.cedriccentre.com/blog/internal-vs-external-locus-of-control/comment-page-1/#comment-6070 Gina Vanderham Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:53:27 +0000 http://www.cedriccentre.com/blog/?p=1822#comment-6070 Hi Michelle, thanks for the excellent reminder on this as it is a major piece for me that i need to start working on NOW. i am looking forward to being guided in the steps towards this in the web based program!! i can see how the eloc with my rageful Dad set me up to be dependent on him for his approval and yet i was inadequate, stupid burden! mixed messagees and living for someone else--recipie for disaster! i look forward to valuing myself more and putting my needs, opinions and feelings first (while still considering others) guiltlessly and joyously knowing i am enough. let's see in 6 months if i am there- i sure hope so. thanks again, Gina see you on the first call of the program! Hi Michelle,

thanks for the excellent reminder on this as it is a major piece for me that i need to start working on NOW. i am looking forward to being guided in the steps towards this in the web based program!!

i can see how the eloc with my rageful Dad set me up to be dependent on him for his approval and yet i was inadequate, stupid burden! mixed messagees and living for someone else–recipie for disaster!

i look forward to valuing myself more and putting my needs, opinions and feelings first (while still considering others) guiltlessly and joyously knowing i am enough.

let’s see in 6 months if i am there- i sure hope so.

thanks again,

Gina

see you on the first call of the program!

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