The healing journey begins with consciousness. We must be aware of what we’re doing in order to change our response. Now, initially, frequently our awareness will come after the fact: After the binge or after the purge or after the bad body thought. That’s the process of change. We start out in a place of unconsciousness and we don’t really even know what isn’t working for us. Then we come to a place of consciousness about what isn’t working – namely our way of perceiving ourselves and our relationship with food – but we still don’t seem to be able to change anything about it just yet. This is a very uncomfortable stage of change called “conscious incompetence.”
In conscious competence you actually have the awareness and the tools to change your old, automatic responses to situations in the moment, not after the fact. You get to witness yourself doing things in a new, life-enhancing way and that does wonders for your self-esteem and it also begins to do away with the old sense of helplessness and hopelessness that was a part of you for so long.