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Stopping the Eating Disorder Triggers

eating disorder triggersFor this week’s article I’m happy to respond to a question from a telephone client on the Eastern Seaboard about stopping eating disorder triggers. I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s relevant to anyone at any stage of the journey to complete freedom from food and body image stress, whether you have an eating disorder or just feel that food focus takes up more time and energy than you’d like.

Question:

“One minute after our talk, which I found extremely insightful as I always do, I walked out of office and into my cubicle to have my lunch.  I had ordered egg salad on a wrap and fruit.  I was ready to eat until full and, if I wanted, to finish rest later if I got hungry.  I’ve really been working hard on trying to listen to my body cues.

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Weekly Centering Update – Eating Disorder Workshops Galore!

Hello and welcome to another update of events and weekly this and that at The CEDRIC Centre.

We are almost full to capacity in our Phase II workshop, just so you know, so if you were thinking you’d like to join us August 27 – 29th, 2010, in Victoria for our Phase II event, now’s the time to let us know.

We have just posted our Phase I and II workshop schedule for the rest of 2010 and well into 2011, so have a snoop. Also, do let us know your thoughts on what you would want to see as a part of our first, annual, CEDRIC Phase I/Phase II combined, super duper, all-inclusive vacation workshop.  We’ve got some ideas in our noggins’ about what we’d like to offer you during that time, and where, but we are a democracy – majority rules, so let us know. Thanks to those of you who have already offered so many great ideas. We’re compiling them and will share them with you all in September.

I’ve heard from many clients this week about how much they enjoyed the last two articles (Stay with Yourself and Back to Basics).  I hope that you’ve discovered our podcasts, too, if you like to listen rather than read. They’re all on our blog if you haven’t found them yet, and they are also available at iTunes.

I am sure you’ll really like this week’s article as I respond to a question from a phone client in the United States about what triggers her binges.

Wishing you a week filled with new awareness.

Love

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The Solution to Nighttime Binging

Solution to Nighttime BingingFor this week’s article I am responding to a question from a reader, Anna, who, after reading last week’s article, Back to Basics, wanted some more specific information on how to overcome nighttime binging.

“I get an overwhelming sense that I need to eat at bedtime.  It is almost like an obsession.  I have not figured out what thought is triggering this yet. (At other times of the day it seems easier to figure out the thoughts that precede such events.)  If I assume it is really hunger and decide to have something small, I am right into a binge and cannot stop with a reasonable amount. Any ideas?”
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Weekly Centering Update – Summer Workshop Success!

Well! It’s been another transformative week here at CEDRIC.  Sarah Atkinson facilitated a great Phase I workshop in Victoria to a full house! And based on the feedback, it is clear that a lot of fun and learning was had by all.

Our Kelowna events for Professionals and for the general public are starting to fill up which is very exciting as it’s my first offering outside of the lower mainland. I’m looking forward to it on all fronts! My sweetheart and I may even try to fit in a holiday which would be lovely in that region in the summer (if you like heat and lakes and wine…which I most certainly do!).

We have a Phase II workshop the last weekend in August in Victoria which has 2 spaces left at this point (August 27 – 29th) and many more Phase I and Phase II events in Vancouver and Victoria in the fall and beyond.

We are also having fun planning our first ever CEDRIC Centre tropical destination retreat! Oh Yeah!  If you have suggestions on where that might be held (your favorite destination) let us know. We welcome your suggestions. This event will likely be the first of many annual, all-inclusive, CEDRIC events and we anticipate it will happen in late February, early March, 2011 Again, feedback is welcome.

Below you’ll read just some of the great feedback from our Phase I participants of last weekend. And I trust you’ll enjoy the article for this week as I respond to a question from a reader about her nighttime binging.

Have a fantastic week, and don’t forget to check out the new little video we’ve got as an intro to the CEDRIC Centre on our home page. I think the folks who made it did a great job!

Love

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Phase I Weekend Workshop Feedback, July 16 – 18, 2010

“The resources were great!”

“The honesty and personal disclosures of the counsellor really helped and gave me hope and faith in this process.”

“I loved the Drill Sgt. dialogue!”

“It was absolutely amazing!”

“For the last 3 days I was able to feel relaxed about food!”

“I am so grateful that I now have concrete tools I can take with me and use when I need them!”

“The breathing exercise was so helpful!”

“This is a great workshop and it has definitely opened my eyes!”

“It was such a safe, comfortable and supportive setting.”

“I liked how, if I wasn’t able to express myself fully on an issue, someone else always touched on it for me inadvertently.”

“I loved the lunchtime exercise and how I was able to check in about my hunger and fullness and then talk about it later as a group.”

“I loved the healthy assortment of food and teas!”

“I liked the progression of the weekend from food, to self, to others.”

“You are a personable facilitator, Sarah, who was perceptive in your interactions with the group!”

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Back to the Basics of How to Overcome an Eating Disorder

How to Overcome an Eating DisorderFor this week’s article I thought a wee review (intro to you newcomers) of a basic principle on how to overcome an eating disorder would be in order. In my own healing journey, the more I was reminded of this basic premise, the faster things went and the easier life became. I see this phenomenon repeating with my individual clients as well, so here goes.

Simply put, if you’re restricting, overeating, purging, hating your body (no matter whether you’re truly overweight or underweight), feeling depressed, feeling anxious, drinking often, taking drugs, numbing out regularly to the T.V., or spending money you don’t really have on stuff you don’t really need, you are using a coping strategy.

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Weekly Centering Update – We Love Feedback

Well, it’s been an amazing week at CEDRIC. We’ve received some really touching and wonderful feedback which I’ll share a bit of with you, plus we’re preparing for a full house at our Phase I intensive workshop this weekend.

These events are so fabulous in the change they create for our guests in such a short period of time. I’m very excited for all who are in attendance!! We’ll have some feedback from them to share with you next week.

We have a public educational event in Kelowna happening on Wednesday, August 18th, from 6:30 – 9:00 at the Okanagan Public Library. I welcome any of you in the area who would like to meet me and learn some of our tools and philosophy to come and join us. The fee for the evening is $39.00 and you will receive some great information, tools and handouts to take away with you. If you’d like to register just email me or call: mmorand@cedriccentre.com 1-866-383-0797.

I am gearing up in a big way for the move to Vancouver and the formal opening of Vancouver CEDRIC’s doors in early September, so it’s a busy but supremely exciting time all around. I am blessed to have amazing staff and a wonderful team here in Victoria and have made some great connections for support staff (body workers, additional counsellors) in Vancouver.  More details to follow as things unfold.

Some feedback from this week:

J (An individual client) “Thank you for once again connecting the dots for me and reminding me in an interactive way how to use the tools I have. I am much more peaceful and confident in my whole life. I appreciate your wisdom, knowledge and kindness.”

S (A Web Program Client) “I take this opportunity to let you know how much I appreciate you, your book, your philosophy and the many valuable tools you make so freely available to all of us who suffer from this terrible dependence on harmful coping strategies. I want you to know how significantly my life has improved in so many ways since I began to study and apply your process, and that I have every confidence in an eventual complete recovery in which I will feel entirely comfortable, capable and even joyful anywhere and with anyone. Thank you, Michelle.”

CR (A CEDRIC Blog Enthusiast about my article from last week.) “Thank you so much, Michelle, you really nailed it this time — the small child in all of us (especially ME) needs gentle, loving, re-parenting. My own particular Drill Sergeant is the voice of my perfectionist anxiety-ridden mother. Better to try to re-parent late than never! We do need to “Stay with Ourselves” but also take half a step back and SEE the sad little girl who needs informed, mature parenting. Thanks for your wonderful blog.”

Have a fantabulous week!

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Natural Eating Podcast

Natural Eating Podcast

This week  we have a Natural Eating podcast for you.

Natural eating simply means eating like a normal person (forgive me for saying that – it must seem that dieting and being obsessed about weight is the new norm, but read on to see what I mean).

Normal, natural eating looks like this:

You eat when you’re hungry; you stop when you’re full; everything is in moderation and you feel no guilt nor any body image judgement for the kinds of foods you’re eating or the quantities because you trust yourself to be reasonable and balanced.

If you’re not approaching food this way it is highly likely that you struggle with weight loss and body image stress and that you find yourself ricocheting back and forth between binging and restricting day in and day out.

This podcast will help you understand what is not working in your current approach to food and what you can start to experiment with that will change the stress you feel about eating and lead to natural – non-diet-based weight loss that lasts.

As soon as you can allow for the possibility that the problem is not your willpower or commitment to eating well or being healthy and fit but that’s it is actually the belief that dieting will help you to feel better and that there is something wrong with you for not being able to stick to the diet-du-jour, you are beginning to step free and you can be very quickly successful with this process of eating naturally and being a natural weight for your body effortlessly.

Explore the Natural Eating handout, print it out and post in on your fridge. Give yourself the gift of reinforcing these new ways of thinking and being around food a bit each day and you’ll be amazed how quickly you return to your natural state of being physically and mentally.

Natural Eating Handout

And if you’d like to get some help and see how fast and simple changing your approach to food and feeling good about yourself can be, email me and we will get started towards you freeing yourself from food and body stress.

Love Michelle
mmorand@cedriccentre.com

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Client Appreciation Letter

Here is a wonderfully inspirational letter from one of our clients. We worked together for just 3 ½ months.

“Thank you so much for your incredible dedication in the past few months. You’ve been invaluable in helping me understand the process of overcoming food and body obsession and I will carry all these incredible tools and insights with me forever. If I could share any words with those who are considering engaging in a similar process, this is what I would like to say:

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Stay with Yourself

A topic that comes up often enough in my sessions with clients is that of not really believing or trusting the “reassuring” and “supportive” comments of the Drill Sgt. (your inner critic/champion).

What I mean is that, once you’ve identified that your Drill Sgt. is criticizing you for something and have used one of the CEDRIC tools to figure out what he’s really on about, it is common early in this healing process to want to reframe his well-intentioned but poorly-communicated support into a strong, confident statement of absolute belief and trust in our ability to succeed. This actually backfires, believe it or not, and we end up feeling just as estranged from ourselves but now we believe we don’t even have a tool we can use to help because we tried it and it didn’t work! Not quite true.

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CEDRIC’s Weekly Update for Week 27, 2010

Hello out there!

We’ve had another fabulous week here at CEDRIC with book sales, workshop preparation, new clients beginning their process with us, other clients graduating, and as always, amazing sharing and transformation on our web-based program.

And to top it all off, I just had my most favorite kind of session of all! It’s the session where, after a few short months, someone who was, for years, feeling completely controlled by food and loathing themselves 24/7 is now feeling happy, peaceful, light, free. They are no longer using food to cope. They are liking their body and enjoying exercise. They are also establishing stronger, more intimate connections with family and new friends, even potential boyfriends, after years of feeling unworthy, stupid, and completely unlovable.

I love those closure sessions where there simply isn’t anything to report or work on. Everything on the giant mountain of unfinished business that used to be ever-present and create such chronic anxiety and the need to overeat/restrict/purge is now taken care of.

Day-to-day events are met with confidence and self-trust. The future is perceived as, “Nothing to worry about – I know I’ll deal with whatever comes up when it comes up. I’m not going to sweat about the future. I’m just gonna kick back and enjoy life.”

Oh Yeah!!! Freedom!

And for this particular person, that complete about-face and solid sense of peace and trust took 4 months and a total of 14 counselling sessions (including today, which was really just a formality and tying up loose ends).

That’s it, that’s all. That’s a very typical experience, too.

I am so very excited when someone steps free completely from the food stress. It’s a whole new world and a whole new life. You’re free to be the best you can be in all ways.

I am so very touched also, when clients are willing to share their thoughts and feelings about our work together. It is such a gift to me to know how this process just works.

I invite you to explore just some of the wonderful feedback we’ve received this past week alone, from clients:

• Thanks again Michelle, you have such a wonderful way of cutting through the bullshit and getting to the point.

• I’m feeling so positive about everything right now. It feels so good to come out of the dark.

• Thank you so much for the Cedric Centre, your compassion and friendship. Everything I am learning is such a gift. Words cannot describe it.

And a little note I received about our daily centering exercises (these are a staple of our web-based program):

• These are fantastic, Michelle – I look forward to them so much.

And last, but so far from least, a letter from a client (not the one mentioned above) who just completed her work with me two weeks ago. We worked together for 3 ½ months.

“Thank you so much for your incredible dedication in the past few months. You’ve been invaluable in helping me understand the process of overcoming food and body obsession and I will carry all these incredible tools and insights with me forever. If I could share any words with those who are considering engaging in a similar process, this is what I would like to say:

You won’t regret it! If you’re anything like me, you’re here because things seem desperate, and yet, there is a voice inside you that is saying that another way is possible. You don’t have to live the rest of your life feeling anxious and unhappy around food and your body. You’re ready to make changes and to begin to focus on things that really matter to you. This process, like any other journey worth taking, will have ups and down, challenges and rewards. It also may seem to take forever to make progress, especially when compared with the “quick fix” of either a binge or crash diet. You will find, however, that in working with this gifted and dedicated team, momentum builds quickly and sooner than you think, you will be seeing things in a completely new and exciting light.

Don’t despair, you’re in good hands! Trust in this process. It is sound, makes sense and will work if your commitment to yourself and to change is strong. Keep your commitment strong by staying rooted in your compassion. Self-criticism has gotten you this far, now it’s time to switch gears and to start nurturing the part of yourself that is kind and gentle. When you make mistakes, be gentle. When you have success, celebrate. When you ask questions, be kind. When you set goals, be generous. It is amazing to feel yourself softening into self-compassion and soon, you won’t want to live anywhere else.

Congratulations! You’ve taken the first tiny but very important step in greatly improving the course of the rest of your life! I know that my work through this Centre has done exactly that for me and I couldn’t be happier about it!”

Signed,

S

So there you have it!  Thank you, ladies and gents for your generosity in providing me with such amazing feedback.

As always, my team and I are here if you want to reach out and get some questions answered or begin to receive support for yourself or someone you love.

Have a great week, and enjoy this week’s free article!

Love

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