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Tweets on 2009-11-29

  • You are no more responsible for the needs, feelings and behaviors of others than you are for the weather. #
  • Are you or a loved one challenged by using food to cope? Victoria workshop Jan 29-31. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Come to Victoria for Phase 1 Workshop Jan 29-31. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • If you are struggling with bulimia and anorexia, there is a way out. And it won’t take years. #
  • We all have ways we cope with life, but if you’re using food as a coping strategy, I can bet it’s not serving you well. #
  • Get a live workshop experience with me Dec 4-6 in Victoria. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • I know what your Drill Sgt. (inner critic) likes to tell you, but you don’t have to be his victim. #
  • Learn why you use food to cope and get a plan for the New Year. Workshop Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Why struggle with food issues any longer? Information and support are here for you. #
  • Last Phase 1 workshop this year in Victoria Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #

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Commitments and Balance Part II

balanceI can’t believe that I didn’t see it as I was writing it but it is kind of ironic that last week, as I was sharing the news of my engagement with you all, the topic I chose to write on was “commitments and balance”! Ah, the subconscious works in mysterious ways doesn’t it!? We teach what we most need to learn!

It’s definitely a message that I can stand to be reminded of:

“Don’t make commitments you can’t keep and still live a balanced life!”

No, I’m not rethinking my plans to marry. I am, however, conscious of the need to stay grounded in my day-to-day self-care routine in order to be the best that I can be for my son, my sweetheart, my family and friends-at-large and my clients. We all share that need. We all need a fundamental routine of self-care that we honor first and foremost in order to have the energy and the presence of mind to be healthy and balanced and patient and clear-headed with the rest of the world as we go through our day.

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Your Desired Belief

mindIt is very freeing to step out of your all-or-nothing thinking and old core belief, and to allow for the possibility that what you have believed about yourself or about old situations isn’t true. Stepping out of this old belief leaves a vacancy, a space that needs to be filled with a new thought or belief.  If spiritual enlightenment is your ultimate goal, at some point you will find yourself in a place where you don’t need to replace this old belief with anything: you just exist peacefully in the space that is left when it departs. For the rest of you who either don’t necessarily desire that or who are still on the path to enlightenment, there is the desired belief.

The desired belief is the new story, the new thought which you will offer yourself whenever you notice the triggering of that old belief. Your desired belief will ultimately become your automatic thought: your “default setting” as I call it. For now, it will require some consciousness on your part to reinforce the new belief, but it isn’t hard to do.

First let’s figure out what your desired belief is. The best and simplest way to do this is to take a look at your current belief. Let’s use I am not good enough as our example.

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The First Step to Self-Care Revisited

This is a follow up to our 6-part series on self-care. If you haven’t read the others, here are the links:
The First Step to Self-Care
Self-Care Part 2
Self-Care Part 3: Sustainable Change Begins
Self-Care Part 4: Getting from Here to There
Self-Care Part 5: Letting Go of Your Stories
Self-Care Part 6: Realistic Goals

This question came in earlier this week from Nadine and I thought that there might be one or two others of you who may benefit from exploring this tool.
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Commitments and Balance

juggleCommitments and Balance

“Don’t make commitments you can’t keep….and still live a balanced life.” mm

Perhaps you’re wondering why I added that little bit on the end there? Well, since you asked…

Most people will agree that the definition of Integrity is somewhere along the lines of “doing what you say you will” or “words and actions in alignment.” I concur with these definitions. But there is a very important piece of the puzzle missing, or inferred:

Integrity = Do what you say you will as long as it doesn’t harm you.

In order to be living from this definition of integrity you have to

  1. Be well aware of what you’re feeling and needing and
  2. Be well aware of your deservedness to take care of yourself first and foremost.

No, that is not selfish, it is self-loving. It is necessary as a fundamental framework in your life to honor your commitments to yourself first and foremost.

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Tweets on 2009-11-22

  • Start changing your relationship with food before the holidays. Workshop Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • No matter how old you are or how long you’ve been using food as a coping strategy, you can find your way out and it’s easier than you think. #
  • Food is not the problem. I can show you what is. #
  • Live eating disorder workshop in Victoria Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • You have the ability to change your relationship with food. All you need a little knowledge. #
  • Will I see you in December? Live workshop in Victoria Dec 4-6. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #

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Tweets on 2009-11-15

  • Will I see you in Vancouver? I hope you’ll join me at my Phase I workshop. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • There is nothing wrong about using food to cope. It’s what you learned, it’s a habit, and it can be changed. #
  • You can learn how to control your inner critic – the Drill Sgt. #
  • Friday is the day we start. Will you join me in Vancouver for a Phase 1 workshop? http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • If you’ve been sitting on the fence about getting help with your eating disorder, now’s the time to take action. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Changing your relationship with food from a stressful to an easy one is possible. You just need a little knowledge and support. #
  • There is still time to register for my Van workshop Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • The way you handle stress is a good predictor of how you’ll use food to cope. #

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Tweets on 2009-11-08

  • Learn the keys to freedom from using food to cope Nov 13-15 in Van, BC. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • It’s those pesky self-defeating thoughts that trigger overeating or restricting food. #
  • Do you overeat or restrict food more often than not? Weekend workshop, Van, BC Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • I’ve been where you are. I’ve used food to cope and now I’m free. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • You are stronger than you think you are. All you need is a little knowledge and you can learn to stop using food to cope. #
  • If you’re using food to cope, come to a live weekend workshop to find your way out in Van, BC Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Nurturing a solid relationship with yourself is key to recovery from the use of food to cope. #
  • You don’t have to go through life using food to cope. Live Van, BC workshop with me. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Struggling to win the battle with focusing on food? Freedom awaits at Van, BC live workshop Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • A big piece of your work in healing is to learn not to let the opinions of others count for more than your own. #

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Assumptions

AssumptionsAs I woke up this morning, the first thought I had, after “Why is that cat on my head!” was of you: My readers and CEDRIC Community members.  I was reflecting on a phenomenon I’ve been noticing, which is that I receive far more comments on my articles that are not tools-oriented but more information and thoughts to ponder, than I do on my offerings that have specific steps attached, designed to help you achieve your goals.

I lay there, reflecting on this pattern and noticed that I began to feel a little unsettled, “the niggle” was up! As I asked myself what needs I had that weren’t being met that were triggering that niggle, the answer became clear: I want my readers to be successful in their healing. I don’t want them to stay stuck in the use of food to cope when they don’t have to. I want my writing to inspire them and motivate them to try doing something differently.

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Tweets on 2009-11-01

Tweets on 2009-11-01

  • Are you allowing others to dictate your life? You can learn to stand strong when you let go of negative core beliefs. #
  • Join me, the founder of the CEDRIC Centre at a live weekend workshop in Vancouver, BC Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • At last, I’m presenting a live weekend workshop experience in Vancouver, BC Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Are you letting your body image issues keep you isolated from friends and family? #
  • Been thinking of coming to a live Cedric Centre workshop? If coming to or in Van, BC, please join me Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • What one small step can you take today to release yourself from overeating or restricting food? #
  • I was once struggled with an eating disorder. I know all-too-well what you’re going through. #
  • Cedric Centre live workshop in Vancouver Nov 13-15. Meet me in person and experience profound change. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • Want a live workshop experience with me? Next Phase 1 is in Vancouver Nov 13-15. http://bit.ly/1A2awC #
  • If you use food to cope, rest assured, you’re not a bad person. You’ve just been taught that you are. #

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