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Phase I Weekend Workshop Feedback; February 20 – 22nd, 2009

Phase I Weekend Workshop Feedback Hello All!

We had such a great time at the Phase I workshop this weekend! I’m so glad to have had the opportunity to spend an intensive amount of time with a group of women who were so ready to move through their use of food to cope and to tackle the underlying triggers. It was a great treat for me and I want to extend a thank you to each of the participants for your sharing and support of each other.

I’d like to share with the rest of you some of the feedback from the participants of this past weekend workshop.

If you’ve been to a Phase I before, then these insights are bound to bring back some memories! If you’ve never been, perhaps it will give you a sense of what you might achieve in joining me for our next Phase I workshop which will be held May 29 – 31, 2009 in Victoria.

So, read on and imagine the possibilities!

Love Michelle. (more…)

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Tina’s Journey- A New Horizon Slowly Coming Into View

A New Horizon Slowly Coming Into View I’m sitting in my car at the top of the Malahat (a local lookout) with a breath-taking view spread out in front of me. Below is a panorama that allows me an eagle eye view from the Gulf Islands on my left, to the US, way in the distance to the right. Behind me, as I write, hundreds of vehicles stream by, trucks with their brakes growling serenaded by the wind so that I can barely hear the slight whisper of a light rain on the sunroof. Clouds scud by overhead and the sun and rain compete with an incredible, fat, vivid rainbow for my attention.

Rather than distracting me, however, this vista and the solitude of my warm, protected perch reclined comfortably on leather seats are helping me to focus on the current task at hand. (more…)

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Thrive, Don’t Just Survive

Thrive, Don't Just Survive I had to pull over into the Northfield rest stop to write this, I was desperate to find a restroom, just off the ferry in Nanaimo and once I’d stopped, and rested, I pulled out my blog with the following extruding out of the end of my pen,  so inspired I was to write it. I had the good fortune to spend some quality time with a dear friend last night. All the way here from Iqaluit, Deb is one of those amazing people its an honour to know, an honour to be able to call her a sister-by-choice.Debbie has worked as a voice for those who can’t speak for themselves, for many years in the furthest reaches of Canada, namely, women in poverty and women escaping from violence. She is wise beyond her years. She was a single mother for years, overcame her own demons to go on to make a huge difference in any community she touches.As usual, our conversation wandered around where we were in each other’s lives – and we got to talking about CEDRIC, the blog, core beliefs and how we both dealt with our rascally drill sergeants.We were in Deb’s downtown Vancouver hotel suite, pulling open the couch to turn it into my bed and Deb says “the trick is to take those surviving skills and turn them into thriving skills.” Sometimes she comes up with such simple sentiments that are so ultimately dead on. Then she pointed out that she couldn’t help noticing how my recent soul searching and subsequent life changes has had paid off and how I was now, like her, thriving. (more…)

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Tandem Healing

Tandem Healing  There is something profoundly significant that can be found in the support of friendships. When we have someone or a few trustworthy and beloved someones who know us, have history with us, and have a wish to help us, we are miles ahead of those who don’t.

I was thinking, on my journey to wellness, how much easier it would be to get more motivated to get out if I have a friend who would be willing to go for walks out in the green spaces of the region with me. Then, as I was sitting on my balcony with my first coffee, in the early morning fogginess, pondering the vista of Esquimalt harbour in front of me, that led me to thinking … what about ‘tandem healing’?

Not just the healing of friendships or having a friend badger you to get off your duff and get out with them so you get more physically active, but how about having a friend who also has ‘issues’ that they want to have re-aligned, go into the CEDRIC community and process the literature and workshops together? Of course, it would require the patience needed of the other to give them the time and space to do the work that is individual to each of the friend’s healing process, but doesn’t it make sense that if friendship and camaraderie in a trusted environment is healing, then taking an intentional path together toward wellness would not only expedite the individual healing process through the support available, but wouldn’t that tandem healing also would deepen the friendship? (more…)

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Values – Part II

Values - Part II  Hello and welcome to The CEDRIC Centre blog and on-line community!

Last week I wrote an article on values and encouraged you to write out a list of your own and to contrast your list of values with your current reality. How did you do?

I guarantee you that if you’re struggling with an eating disorder (overeating, restricting or purging) the way you are living your life now does not jive with your core values.

What’s exciting about that statement is that it means that if you get clear on what your ideal/desired values are and you challenge yourself to begin to truly live from them you will immediately feel significantly more peaceful and relaxed in yourself and in your world; your anxiety will diminish greatly and your need for food to cope will cease to exist. Yes, it’s true.

Another way of saying that is that the only reason you struggle with disordered eating in the first place, or anxiety or depression for that matter is because you are going against your core values somewhere in your life. This violation of your true self, your inner conscience, creates a sense of separation and a lack of trust and safety within yourself. The more you act in ways that compromise the values you believe in, the more anxious and alienated you feel and the more insecure you are overall. Another way of saying that is that when you go against your core values you are out of integrity. And when you’re out of integrity you feel guilty, bad, wrong, ashamed, embarrassed, and just plain anxious. (Are any of those familiar to you?)

When we act from a place of integrity, honoring our core values, it doesn’t matter if someone is mad at us, threatening us, blaming us for their sadness or their life, we have empathy for them without taking it on. We know that our responsibility first and foremost is to honor our core values because if we do that, we truly are doing our best for that person; for our friends and family and our society. It’s true.

Think about it, does anyone truly gain when you lie for them? Does anyone truly benefit from you compromising your commitments to yourself or others for them? No. Maybe in the short term it might seem like it. But really, very quickly, the relationship begins to suffer from the lack of respect and integrity; resentment and insecurity build and what could have been a very lovely friendship or partnership turns sour. And when you step in to try and “fix” things for someone else by taking responsibility for their actions or needs you’re sending that person a message of disrespect. In essence you are saying “I don’t think you’re capable of handling this on your own so I’m going to do it for you.” It’s hard to build a healthy connection that way. It establishes a sense of dependency and imbalance that is hard to overcome.

In the immediate moment it might seem like a good idea to compromise yourself to make someone happy or to meet their needs in some way. It isn’t. “But what could it hurt, just this little bit, just this once, if it makes them happy?” you say? Lots. You will end up paying the price tenfold as will the relationship. You’ll feel anxious and insecure. You’ll feel compromised and taken advantage of. You’ll set a precedent for the next time this person has this problem or need and it is harder then, to set a different boundary. You’ll feel bad. And I suspect that you’ll use food to cope. That’s a big price for not saying no to a dinner invitation or to giving someone a ride etc. But that’s the price you pay each time you go against your core values and needs to “make” someone else happy or to avoid their anger or disappointment in you.

So, take the time to make that ‘Values List’ if you haven’t yet and then look at the primary relationships in your life and see if any of them, as they are currently operating, require you to compromise yourself in any way. Make a list of the little and big things that you do that don’t feel right to you or of the dynamics between you and the other person that leave you feeling controlled and disrespected or frustrated.

There is a good chance that those things are happening because you’re allowing your core values to be compromised and chances are those things couldn’t even begin to happen if you honored your core values.

Check it out and let me know what you discover.

Love Michelle

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Thought Vibration: Chapter II

The Law of Attraction In the Thought World

William Walker Atkinson wrote a book in 1906 called “Thought Vibration or The Law of Attraction in the Thought World. He wrote over 100 books in his career and was widely respected as a leader of new thought and spirituality. His writing formed the theoretical basis for the hit movie The Secret and influenced many of its interviewees (Such as Jack Canfield and Joe Vitale). I’d like to share some quotes from each chapter with you over the next few weeks as it’s such an amazing little resource and the language with which he writes is so matter of fact it really appeals to the logical, rational, need the science behind the method part of my brain. I hope you like it. Michelle

Chapter II

“… thought waves … have the property of reproducing themselves… Just as a note of the violin will cause the thin glass to vibrate and ‘sing,’ so will a strong thought tend to awaken similar vibrations in minds attuned to receive it.”

“We are largely what we have thought ourselves into being,…”

“We generally see that for which we look.” (more…)

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From Co-dependence to Confidence

From Co-dependence to ConfidenceFebruary is relationship month here at CEDRIC and our newsletters this month will centre around the issue of relating to others. One of the key aspects that influences all our interactions with others, whether they are lovers, friends, family, co-workers or the check-out girl at the grocery story, is the degree of unconscious co-dependent behaviour that exists in us.

Ask yourself this question: Is there anything in my life right now that I feel anxious about that is not related to me feeling responsible in some way for someone else’s feelings and/or needs? No?

Or try it this way: If I could miraculously let go of feeling responsible for what other people feel and need or expect of me, how would I feel? Like I had just lost a hundred pounds? Free? Like I could finally live my life?

And what about this one: Is there any anxiety in me that isn’t about me wanting control of someone’s perception of me because I believe that if they approve of me I’ll finally be able to relax and won’t feel as anxious all the time? (more…)

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CEDRIC Client Success Stories – Spring Cleaning

CEDRIC Client Success StoriesFebruary is relationship month here at CEDRIC and our newsletters this month will centre around the issue of relating to others. One of the key aspects that influences all our interactions with others, whether they are lovers, friends, family, co-workers or the check-out girl at the grocery story, is the degree of unconscious co-dependent behaviour that exists in us.

Ask yourself this question: Is there anything in my life right now that I feel anxious about that is not related to me feeling responsible in some way for someone else’s feelings and/or needs? No?

Or try it this way: If I could miraculously let go of feeling responsible for what other people feel and need or expect of me, how would I feel? Like I had just lost a hundred pounds? Free? Like I could finally live my life?

And what about this one: Is there any anxiety in me that isn’t about me wanting control of someone’s perception of me because I believe that if they approve of me I’ll finally be able to relax and won’t feel as anxious all the time?

This is co-dependency.

If I’m co-dependent it means I feel responsible for what other people think and feel and subsequently what they do. It’s the mechanism that allows abusive relationships to function (for if I didn’t buy into feeling responsible for the other person’s feelings and life experience they would not be able to control me with their words and actions). It’s also one of the primary contributors to the degree of anxiety and depression we see in our society and it leads us to use food to cope. (more…)

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Thought Vibration: Chapter I

The Law of Attraction In the Thought World

William Walker Atkinson wrote a book in 1906 called “Thought Vibration or The Law of Attraction in the Thought World. He wrote over 100 books in his career and was widely respected as a leader of new thought and spirituality. His writing formed the theoretical basis for the hit movie The Secret and influenced many of its interviewees (Such as Jack Canfield and Joe Vitale). I’d like to share some quotes from each chapter with you over the next few weeks as it’s such an amazing little resource and the language with which he writes is so matter of fact it really appeals to the logical, rational, need the science behind the method part of my brain.  I hope you like it. Michelle

Chapter I

“We speak learnedly of the Law of Gravitation, but ignore that equally wonderful manifestation, THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IN THE THOUGHT WORLD.”

“When we come to see that Thought is a force — a manifestation of energy — having a magnet-like power of attraction, we will begin to understand the why and wherefore of many things that have heretofore seemed dark to us. There is no study that will so well repay the student for his time and trouble as the study of the workings of this mighty law of the world of Thought — The Law of Attraction.”

“…when we think we set into motion vibrations of a very high degree, … just as real as the vibrations of light, heat, sound, electricity. And when we understand the laws governing the production and transmission of these vibrations we will be able to use them in our daily life, just as we do the better known forms of energy.”

“….Not only do our thought waves influence ourselves and others, but they have a drawing power—they attract to us the thoughts of others, things, circumstances, people, “luck”, in accord with the character of the thought uppermost in our minds.” “This matter of Thought Attraction is a serious one. When you stop to think of it you will see that a man really makes his own surroundings, although he blames others for it.”

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Phase I Weekend Workshop Feedback; February 20 – 22nd, 2009

Phase I Weekend Workshop FeedbackHello All!

We had such a great time at the Phase I workshop this weekend! I’m so glad to have had the opportunity to spend an intensive amount of time with a group of women who were so ready to move through their use of food to cope and to tackle the underlying triggers. It was a great treat for me and I want to extend a thank you to each of the participants for your sharing and support of each other.

I’d like to share with the rest of you some of the feedback from the participants of this past weekend workshop. If you’ve been to a Phase I before, then these insights are bound to bring back some memories! If you’ve never been, perhaps it will give you a sense of what you might achieve in joining me for our next Phase I workshop which will be held May 29 – 31, 2009 in Victoria.

So, read on and imagine the possibilities!

Love Michelle.

“I really appreciate hearing from others in a group setting. I got far more than I expected out of the workshop. I do not feel like there is anything missing. I have been given all the pieces to be effective and make lasting changes. Everyone was given what they needed and got lots of one on one time. I honestly couldn’t suggest one single thing that would have made the weekend here more complete and satisfying. I thank you from my heart that I had this opportunity.” (more…)

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